Without a doubt;
The biggest turning point in my life was at the age of 14, the start of year 10, in Sept 2006.
Sounds very dramatic, I know (although I admit I've always been one for drama).
It makes me cringe having to recall it, but I know if it wasn't for this sequence of events, my life could be in a completely different place to now.
In the start of year 10, aged 14, I am living in my home of 12 years. I've lived there since the age of 2. It was a nice home, deceivingly nice. It was also convenient, it was a 5 minute walk up the road to school. So never had I had to rely on anyone but my self to get to school. I was also in a neighbour hood where I had grown up with people since we were young. Friends I had known since primary school were all close by to me.
Then a few weeks on from the start of year 10, a lot of things changed;
The stigma being that me, my mum, dad and sister moved house. We moved directly to the other side of town. I was out of reach of everything I had grown up with, people I lived by, the comfort of security of familiarity.
So. I no longer could walk to school, could no longer walk home from school. I was out of my comfort with knowing where I was. I didn't know anyone.
[simply by this one action of a move of house, obviously this would jolter everything]
On the first day home from school back to our new house, me and my sister had to get a bus for the first time.
[new routine, new concept to us]
It was this which then became the second stigma for the creation of a diverted life. Having to get this bus, meant a routine of getting on the same bus, at the same time, and the same place, 5 days a week, and most importantly, with the same people. Eventually I got to be good friends with them, and even further on, became involved in a new relationship with one of them.
Instantly
My world was now set up for, most the major changes had happened, but these changes in themselves will constantly add more and more diversions, which never would have happened, had I never moved house.
So. I was in a relationship for two years. During this time, we had 3 summers together, 3 christmas's, he left school, I then left school and started college. Unfortunately it ended in 2009. His path then subsequently left mine, and we both have now gone again into two different directions.
Unfortunately I have no communication with him anymore and I don't know anything about what he may be doing. But I am in London, 85 miles away. We haven't had any contact at all for a year. After two years of seeing each other nearly everyday, move on two years, and there couldn't be more of a contrast.
So, the breaking up was possibly one of the final stigma's. Extremely dramatic and deep for someone merely the age of 16 (nearly 17)! However, again I think this is part of what has shaped my attitude now, I feel quite mature for someone only the age of 18 (nearly 19)
The unbeknown is what I find fascinating.
Is this area of my previous life going to be the area of investigation for my project?
Or could I use it to begin with to possibly stem something else...
as there is always division after division after division.
Though I think it will take alot to alter my life drastically after all that. Maybe because I was so young, is the reason it made more of an impact?
